Comments on: Jesus Wants Your Vajayjay

By: Danny Boy

Danny Boy — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 21:52:34 +0000

Great column. That catchy title got my attention right away.

Thank you for your writing. It has been a long time and I am glad to see that you are doing well.

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By: Jamie the Very Worst Missionary

Jamie the Very Worst Missionary — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 22:46:02 +0000

thanks so much! I love the way you tackled this subject!! as a youth worker, i’ve always struggled with how the church teaches sexuality to its youth. i’m still not sure what we SHOULD be doing, but i so appreciate and agree with your perspective on how not to do it… Uh…i mean like how not to teach it… not how not to DO IT…er, you know what i mean….

By: Otha Graham

Otha Graham — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 15:39:31 +0000

Thank you!

By: Lloyd

Lloyd — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:50:40 +0000

I think that last sentence there is right on, James. The answer is not to take God’s ideal and water it down so that humans can more easily accept it. The answer is to make sure we present the whole good news, not just focusing on the sex part, and teach it in all of its beauty and truth. Jesus does not call the road narrow for no reason.

By: JamesW

JamesW — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 17:06:54 +0000

Annie, I don’t argue with any of that, but that’s not what I was saying. I was saying it’s easy to read Sarah’s story and come to the conclusion that we shouldn’t tell kids the value of waiting till marriage. The truth is that we should, but not in the way that was described in the story.

By: Annie

Annie — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 08:07:27 +0000

James i agree that waiting til marriage is the best interest of everyone. but not always practical. just like handing out condoms is practical but not really in the best interest of teens. I think that dealing with actions instead of the heart is a risky business.
i know a lot of women that are grown adults in good marriages that still have some mental block about sex. like its a sin to enjoy it. period. we have to find a balance. sex isn’t just for reproduction, it is for us to enjoy and to feel physical intimacy with our partner. Unfortunately, telling anyone “dont” just isn’t good enough. And if they “don’t” just b/c you say so it may last for a while, but not for long. We need to let God move in people’s lives and do HIS work. If their heart is surrendered to Him, He will lead them and mold them into His image. His voice is so much more powerful than ours.

By: Brooke Luby

Brooke Luby — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:59:43 +0000

This is excellent and heart breaking. I wish that things were taught positively instead of negatively.

For instance- Sex is a precious, beautiful God give gift, designed to give love to someone that trust and commitment is built.

I believe kid even at a young age can have a God-given revelation of that and WANT to wait. Maybe I sound naive or idealistic, but I know that the grace and love of God is what always sets people free- from sin NOT preaching the law. I was hammered with the same list of don’t as a kid- but the problem is they give so much attention to the physical side of sex, scare tactics to avoid consequences etc. As my relationship with God deepened, so my perception of what sex really is deepened and I realized it was so much more then just skin to skin.

The book Sex God by Rob Bell changed a lot of my perspective.
Anyways, great article, I hope that because of people like you bringing these things into the open the way the church talks about sex will continue to change.

By: JamesW

JamesW — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:46:39 +0000

Larry, I saw that paragraph and that’s why i was trying to not come off as too argumentative. It’s a good paragraph in a great piece of writing. But I was somewhat responding to other comments, more than anything else.

By: M. Morford

M. Morford — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:09:44 +0000

The ultimate test of hypocrisy might be how obsessive some people are about what OTHER people do with their bodies (or money, or time).

Their dire warnings and unhinged histrionics couldn’t be further from the calm, welcoming and healing heart of Jesus.

It is far easier to issue ultimatums and fear laden rules than to live a whole and redemptive life.